Qigong - Clearing your relationships

Relationships are very important in our life. Loneliness, without relationships, may be like a prison. People are longing to be loved and cared for; also they want to love and care for others. It’s like breathing – inhaling and exhaling to make the body balanced.

People like to be needed so they feel valued. Otherwise they have fears and become desperate for a relationship – good or bad. They want to be connected.

People want a relationship and often become lost, even if it’s business. They forget about their purpose. The same occurs with friends, a life partner or a mentor. They become lost as they go in different directions.

To build a good relationship:

You need to know your life purpose or goals. What do you want to achieve? It’s like driving a car – you must have a purpose or you’ll waste your time.

Ask – what is my priority now?

Be clear about what a relationship is for you. You also need to have a good relationship with yourself. Have a clear thought in your mind about a good relationship with yourself, then other relationships will blossom the way you want.

Have  self-value. Recognise your value to yourself, family, friends, etc. Ask – what is my value to myself? What is my value to my children, my friends, my work? Ask yourself these questions and recognise you are beautiful and powerful and you don’t rely on those outside. You rely on your own energy, then you can find a relationship.

Based on your priority, is the relationship necessary for you, your children and others? Even your dogs, your house, etc. For example some things may not be important, like going to a party might not be wanted. Based on your priority how can you improve this relationship?  How can you make this better?

Focus on building a relationship with yourself and know the worth of your relationships for your life goal. Other relationships can be let go to give yourself more time for your goal. Do not be afraid to let go of some relationships that don’t serve your life goal. Be honest with yourself and others or it may become a road block, depleting your energy.

Value yourself and good relationships will come back – health, wealth, happiness, etc. Slow down your life and re-evaluate your relationships with businesses, friends, others. You will see other relationships will be very important that you may not have previously  connected with sufficiently.

Some relationships may not be important anymore as we climb higher. Remember to look forward and build a relationship as you take steps in your life that correlate with your purpose and life goal. Let go of the fears e.g. is this good or not – and go for the relationship that supports you.

- Discourse by Master Chunyi Lin